Is this a weekend in New England, or a damp squib?
The Aries with Cancer astrology combination is a cosmic match that has significant potential to be fulfilling, prosperous and rewarding. However there are some challenges to navigate, because this relationship is not necessarily a cake walk. It is, however, certainly worth pursuing and working at to achieve the great dividends it promises.
Let’s first talk about something that this relationship has as an asset and that is the fact that both Aries and Cancer are cardinal signs. This means that they are proactive, ambitious, hard working signs who actively pursue opportunities and are eager to grow in terms of their personal and professional development. So, this is not a couple that wants to stand still and rest on their laurels.
When it comes to the elements, we have the fact that fire and water — Aries being fire and Cancer being water — are not natural bedfellows. Water can have a dampening effect on the Aries enthusiasm, and sometimes, over time, the Aries partner can feel somewhat curtailed and struggle to deal with the more emotional, moody side of the Cancerian, represented by its ruler, the Moon. The changing, shifting tides of the Cancerian emotional ocean very often baffle Aries, who prefer something more consistent and more logical from a partner. Aries can become confused or even demoralised in trying to interpret these tidal mood changes within the Cancerian.
The ruler of Cancer, being the Moon, is not particularly intimidated by Mars. In fact, Cancer can actually enjoy the vitality and audacity of Aries, and find that beneficial to their own character, which is sometimes less direct and a little bit more inoffensive. So, while Cancerians are go-getters, they aren’t often as direct as Aries, and they can benefit from the Aries decisiveness.
What you do have with these two signs is yin and yang. Cancer is feminine, ruled by the Moon. Aries is masculine, fire, ruled by Mars. That leads to a good balance of both assertive and receptive powers, which is positive for the outcome of this relationship.
One potential inhibitor of understanding in this match is that the ruler of Aries, Mars, is in its detriment in Cancer. This relationship can actually be harder on the Aries. If there’s one partner that’s going to struggle a little bit more, it will be the Aries partner, and they will be more likely to be tested through this union. Aries may sometimes feel that their natural aggression and assertiveness is constantly being dampened, and that they need to tread on eggshells. This could be stressful and lead to a suppression of their more pugnacious, argumentative personality.
Somehow, Cancer always has the upper hand in this relationship. Their superior maturity and emotional intelligence means that they have a better grasp of the underlying dynamics of the relationship, which they can use to their advantage.
The percentage chance of success of this relationship is 75%.
Romantic Compatibility
Dreamy romance is definitely a possibility here, because both signs are somewhat nostalgic, and they enjoy spending cosy, quality evenings together. Aries is imaginative, Cancer has a vibrant emotional life, and they draw out of each other a certain sense of familiarity. Together, they tend to feel comfortable, relaxed, and they enjoy spending time together.
Communication doesn’t have to be a big part of romance. In fact, it’s often far more about the things they do in those quiet, intimate moments, and the sense they give each other of being accepted and “coming home.”
Where romance is also delightful for this couple is in their natural enjoyment of entertaining — whether it be friends or family. Their social life is likely to be one where they share moments with special friends without falling into the same trap as Aries with Gemini, where the social life ends up being some chaotic FOMO that leads to the relationship drifting apart. In this case, entertaining and social life tends to bring them together.
Both partners need to be able to look after themselves and take accountability for their own lives. If they don’t, Cancer can be too emotionally needy and may become ultra-sensitive, while Aries might project their emotional burdens onto Cancer if they are wary of dealing with those themselves. So, as long as they can both own their problems and take ownership of their needs — not always expecting each other to be the be-all and end-all — the match can be very successful.
Sexual Compatibility
These signs complement each other when it comes to sexual energy. Aries is very energetic, but sometimes bashful and shy. Cancer understands the Aries nature very well and knows how to use tenderness and gentleness to draw out the very best of them in bed.
Now, while they have very different natures sexually, they are both extremely attentive and have the desire for their sex life to be something really beautiful. Cancer is great at paying close attention to the details of the ambience and the setting, and creating a conducive environment. Aries will show a lot of enthusiasm and gratitude. So, both can feel rather validated and spoiled by each other in the sexual arena.
However, sometimes there can be misunderstandings simply because Cancer is more touchy and can become quite passive-aggressive if Aries has been a little bit too dominant. Cancer doesn’t always express their displeasure openly, and often their ways of showing their
discontent are a little bit too enigmatic for Aries. Therefore, the desired result isn’t achieved and sexual romance can cool.
Friendship
Both signs gain a great deal in terms of the friendship factor. But what is special about the friendship? It’s generally the emotional support and the sense they both have of being purposeful and achieving things together. They always encourage and support each other, and they are very willing to accept the more dynamic and assertive aspects of each other’s personality.
These signs are great foils for each other. Cancer has great awareness in terms of interpersonal relationships. Aries tends to have a little bit more aggression and executive ability, which can give Cancer confidence. Both have good intuition and strong instincts, they will often share similar feelings about the sort of people around them, which can help unite them.
Cancer tends to give Aries good advice, which makes them feel more confident. Aries helps Cancer follow their heart and be more in tune with their purpose, which is exciting for Cancer. Friendship is a strong aspect of the relationship, it is durable, and even in times when the relationship is having other difficulties, the friendship can compensate.
Marriage and Long-Term Potential
One big advantage to this particular union is that both signs have a fairly conservative bent. They are very much invested in family life and the home. As a couple, there is a great desire to have a family, to be fully engaged in family life and activities, and to build the home of their dreams. Therefore, there is a strong desire to work together to achieve prosperity for the family unit and to be a couple who are successful and appear to “have it all.”
This couple wants to achieve in life, and a significant factor in accomplishing that is by having a happy home, property to be proud of and a secure life. In marriage, there is much fuel for these kinds of activities.
This combination actually brings out a serious side in both of them. So, there is possibly less of the moodiness from Cancer, and less of the hot-headedness from Aries. This combination stabilises and anchors each sign, and that’s why marriage can be successful and quite rewarding between this pair.
This is potentially a soulmate connection.
Strengths and Challenges
Cancer enjoys a strong, protective partner, and in that way Aries is a wonderful match, because in times of trouble they will always step up to the plate to defend their partner and family.
Aries can be people of fewer words, and they’re not often great at communicating their emotional needs. It’s handy that Cancer has intuitive powers because they are able to understand the deeply buried aspects of the Aries personality and cater to that, which is marvelous for romance.
Cancer knows to back off when Aries are having one of their more feisty moments, and this can help reduce friction — which is also great for the relationship.
Short term, Cancer compromises, but in the long term, it’s a case of losing some battles but winning the war, which is why Cancer comes out on top. This also leads to a lot of harmony in the relationship.
One of the challenges is that Cancer needs approval consistently from a partner, and Aries also wants praise, recognition, and positive validation. Sometimes, when there are children and other priorities, it’s not always possible for this to be achieved, and so this is an aspect that needs constant effort, or it can be a source of disappointment for both.
The Cancer partner may feel they are constantly compromising and giving way, and they are more likely to suppress their emotions and build up resentment. Aries may not recognise problems until they are very advanced and almost irreconcilable. So, Aries must be mindful in this relationship.
Communication can be marred by extremes — extremes in terms of the emotional reaction of Cancer, or Aries becoming too dominant and pushy. They have to understand each other better and control their natural tendencies as signs to create relationship harmony.
Final Verdict
My verdict is that this relationship has a 75% chance of being successful. There is a great deal of complementary energy and similarities between the two. Both have a strong need to prove themselves, to make the most of life, and to achieve within the career and private realm which creates harmony.
Both star signs are very family and home-orientated, and both have a more cautious, serious side to them, which means that this relationship brings out instincts of self-protection and preservation, leading to quite a strong, cohesive unit that can weather many storms. Sexually, it can be extremely romantic and intriguing.
One of the tricky aspects of this match is communication. Cancer can be very indirect, and Aries would prefer more clarity and logic in communication. Aries have to learn to be less blunt and more sensitive. Cancer needs to learn to spell things out for Aries, not always expecting them to intuit.
Second decan Cancer are very compatible with second decan Aries. Third decan Aries and third decan Cancer are compatible.
As always, there are other key factors in the horoscope relationship chart. For example, synastry between the respective Moon and Ascendant signs, which are based on the day, time, and place of birth, will have a bearing on the relationship outcome. The interaction between their Venus and Mars will tell us a lot more about sexual compatibility and attraction.
