Virgo and Cancer

It’s a little but funny, this feeling inside.

What we have in Virgo and Cancer are two astrology signs who have mutual respect and enjoy peace and harmony. Their initial relationship is sparked by curiosity and a friendship based on the fact that they admire each other. They’re both fairly conscientious people who take life seriously, but who are also fairly intrepid and eager to discover new things. They are fairly quirky personalities who don’t truly understand each other but who get excited when they are together. 

Neither Cancer nor Virgo are exactly what you’d expect them to be. Cancer has a reputation as a homebody, and Virgo as a perfectionist, and this is so stereotypical because there is so much more to their characters. 

They make great companions, they can have a laugh together, and they often find themselves involved in causes to do with animals, society, or children and their dedication to those causes immediately brings them closer. These are zodiac signs who don’t find a lot to argue about. Sure, they don’t always agree on everything, but they’re unlikely to ruffle each other’s feathers. 

What’s great about this cosmic couple is they’re fairly eager to have a family life. Both love children, and both will revel in the experience of parenthood and that’s something that gives us a good indication that marriage is going to be successful between them. However, there can be a few hurdles to overcome. Virgo tends to be frank; they don’t suffer fools gladly, and they can sometimes be a little critical. Virgo likes to tell it as it is. Cancer likes to hear the truth, but they often need a little bit more diplomacy because they have a sensitive side and are easily hurt. 

One of the problems for Cancer is Virgo’s way of nurturing. Their love language is to be helpful and to give pragmatic advice, but sometimes Cancer just craves a little bit more emotional reassurance, and Virgo doesn’t always find it easy to have that empathy or sympathy. Virgo likes to think and talk things through, they analyze their feelings, whereas Cancer just feels. They get intuitive whims and can sometimes perceive things that Virgo really struggles with, so their way of reasoning through life tends to be very different. 

This zodiac match has a 70% success rate. The relationship has a very pragmatic side, they’re very cooperative together and it rarely gets boring because Virgo, being ruled by Mercury, and Cancer being ruled by the Moon, are very adaptable and versatile in their approach to life. They both have an adventurous spirit as well and will certainly not let opportunities pass them by. 

Romantic Compatibility 

In romance, Cancer is looking for a partner who is a little understated, modest, and about whom there is a certain air of mystery. They like seriousness in love, so they’re eager to find a romantic companion who is very protective, sensual, and leaves Cancer in no doubt about their feelings for them. Now, Virgo ticks a few of these boxes. Virgo is certainly conscientious and eager in love, they will be enthusiastic dating partners who want to have a little bit of fun, but Virgo always keeps something in reserve, they lack effusiveness. Virgo aren’t especially protective or nurturing, they require a partner to self soothe. 

Virgo is a little bit cautious about how they go into relationships; they don’t reveal all, and sometimes Cancer may find them standoffish. The problem in romance is Cancer wonders, “Does Virgo really like me romantically? I’m not getting a warm sensation from my Virgo, I’m not feeling that intensity.” As for Virgo, perhaps they don’t really know how they feel yet and they’re just taking one day at a time. This is quite difficult because Cancer is actually a little bit impatient romantically. 

Virgo enjoys the rather giving yet also fairly independent, gung-ho spirit of Cancer. Cancer is a person who makes things happen in their life; they’re creative romantically and enjoy traditional romance, which is something Virgo can buy into. However, Virgo can be very confused, they don’t know what Cancer wants, they feel they’re always doing the wrong thing and romance becomes a little bit awkward. Neither of them fully satisfies the other, and good communication can’t necessarily break down the barriers because both of them don’t want to communicate about what they want, they don’t want to be demanding. 

Sexual Compatibility 

When it comes to the bedroom, this is not an ideal match. There’s a certain coolness that pervades the bedroom, and both of them may not be sure what exactly they have to do to make the bedroom come alive. Sometimes, things are going really well, i.e. the relationship is exciting and they trust each other, but when it comes to the bedroom, that’s when the insecurities come to the fore, the self-doubts are realized, and they can both be constantly critical of their performance. 

Both of them overthink and can become obsessed with fears and neuroses surrounding the bedroom arena. However, it’s really quite simple. Cancer can be very warm and proactive. As a cardinal sign, Cancer has to be a little bit more assertive and dominant in the bedroom because that makes Virgo feel excited and secure. Cancer needs to be very forthright in showing affection and taking the lead in sex. 

When it comes to Virgo, they’re naturally intellectual thinking people so doing research on different ways to improve sex, introducing new tricks, games, and surprises can be Virgo’s wow factor. Virgo loves to learn, and if they’re learning in love and teaching Cancer new things, that’s when the sex life really is something to be excited about. 

Friendship Between Cancer and Virgo

The reason why this zodiac friendship is good is they won’t betray each other, they’re willing to do things for each other, and they enjoy each other’s company. Cancer’s motivated; Virgo’s diligent and they both have a high moral bar meaning they make reliable friends. They can even be very successful as professional partners as well. 

Why the friendship is rather positive is they won’t be jealous of the fact that each has other friends. There’s a variety of interests that both subscribe to, and they won’t be living in each other’s pockets. They’re both independent thinkers that don’t particularly like team playing. 

What’s awesome about the friendship is they can give each other advice from different perspectives, but they don’t really want to change each other – which is always a good feeling, because both of them become very, very stubborn if anyone tries to change them. 

Long-Term Potential and Marriage 

Now, how are this couple going to manage when it comes to long-term stability and marriage? Well, both of them are quite detail-orientated. Cancer’s probably better at seeing the bigger picture and creating a vision for the relationship, and Virgo likes the fact that Cancer supplies that leadership. 

They will be faithful to each other and can thrive when the children and grandchildren come along. 

Neither are big spenders. In fact, Virgo doesn’t think money is especially important, and they may not be as status-orientated or as ambitious as Cancer, but that means they’re quite a good combination. 

They’re both personalities who need to have people and animals to care for, so I can picture a home filled with children and pets. This zodiac match is very industrious and will have a full life with a lot going on. They both get easily bored and restless, so they’re not a couple that will become stagnant. They will keep looking for new ways to make their life enjoyable, interesting, and full of love. 

Cancer rather likes the fact that Virgo has this pragmatic, earthy side, they enjoy their sensible approach, warmth and sensuality. What Virgo appreciates in Cancer is that they don’t have to explain themselves. Virgo is very reserved and copes with relationships through analyzing. Virgo also suppresses their feelings, so they need someone who nurtures them without them having to express need. 

However, Virgo can be quite self-sufficient, and this can make Cancer a little bit nervous. Cancer needs a partner who almost relies on their nurturing and care, and Virgo seems to be doing pretty well without it, even if it’s just a brave face. That can make Cancer feel less needed in the relationship. 

Strengths and Challenges 

This relationship is strong because they are two cooperative, non-confrontational star signs who enjoy each other’s company and who have slightly different skills and abilities to bring to the table. They’re unlikely to tread on each other’s toes, and it’s rare they’ll be critical of each other, as both are diligent and take life fairly seriously. 

Cancer, being ruled by the Moon, seeks security. Virgo, as an Earth sign, also needs a certain amount of predictability and a rhythm to their life and once these two are in the same rhythm, they are unstoppable as a couple because they can manifest and become incredibly productive. 

This is a couple who can also use mind power and meditation to great effect. They’re both fairly conscientious and careful not to hurt; they both tend to think before they speak, and that means a relationship that’s fairly free of aggression or arguments. 

Cancer and Virgo both have a fairly restrained side. While there’ll always be a huge amount of emotion swirling around within the Cancer character, they’re reluctant to show their Achilles heel. Virgo is also very cautious in getting to know people because they don’t want to be too exposed, they’re very private people. 

This is where the relationship works rather well. Both of them are very self-protective and private, and when they come together and begin to get to know each other, it can be quite beautiful because they can finally feel understood and have a companion they’re truly willing to open up to. It’s not easy for them to do so, but they will trust each other to share and reveal themselves. 

Where this relationship can take a downturn is when Cancer refuses to open up, when they become moody and passive-aggressive. This is both frustrating and alienating to Virgo, and Virgo can become very impatient. When Cancer decides, for whatever reason, to go into shutdown, they’re running the risk that Virgo’s going to walk away. Virgo will only try so long before they abandon a relationship—m, especially if they don’t get told what on earth is going on. 

Virgo likes the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Cancer is rarely willing to open up to that extent, and therefore Virgo will always feel that Cancer is holding back and this will trouble them. When something troubles Virgo, they play it over and over in their mind, which tends to create stress and make them withdraw. This withdrawal is deeply hurtful for Cancer, and they can feel very lonely and begin to feel quite sad and depressed about the relationship.

So, it’s very important that they both continue to communicate and make sure that the other is in the picture and knows how to improve. Gentle criticism works, with a little bit of diplomacy, but honesty can never be compromised on in this relationship. 

One of the big problems, particularly during the romantic phase, is Cancer doesn’t forgive, and Virgo moves on quickly once the fire goes out. Therefore, if something major happens early on in the relationship, it’s likely that both won’t want to pursue it. It could ruin both the relationship and the friendship. 

So early on, the relationship is quite fragile, and they both have to be good listeners, which fortunately they are, and be very careful not to betray each other’s trust or shock each other with any behavior that’s out of character or likely to make the other person feel wounded. 

Final Verdict 

The significant element in this cosmic match is we have two fairly reserved star signs who can be stoic and quite self-contained. They don’t want to open themselves up to hurt, and they tend to approach things in a zigzag fashion. Both can be very tactical in the way they conduct a relationship, waiting for that right moment to reveal or open up. 

The wonderful thing however, is when they get to know each other, this is a pair who will be very comfortable sharing, revealing secrets, and totally trusting each other. The relationship is very high on trust and satisfaction. 

Both are kind of practical in love, they enjoy a comfortable, non-aggressive environment with some rewarding relationship rituals. Romantically, they like socializing, but they’re also quite happy to enjoy pottering around the house, doing their own thing, alone or together. This is a couple who won’t necessarily need to live in each other’s pockets or monopolise each other’s time. 

They both require quiet time to think, read, contemplate, and they don’t want to dominate each other. When they’re in a secure partnership, neither is likely to feel needy, and the relationship therefore is powerful. 

They do have to be careful of being critical, of having periods where they shut down, refuse to communicate, or act up. Cancer can’t really use passive aggression on Virgo, it won’t fly and Virgo needs to realise that they can only get answers from Cancer when they are ready. So Virgo has to be more patient in this relationship, and patience isn’t always easy for Virgo in love. 

Overall, this relationship has a 70% chance of success. It’s even better when second decan Cancer is with Virgo, or when second decan Virgo is with Cancer.

Any star sign match is, of course, modified greatly by the Ascendant, Moon, and Venus signs — which will give more bearing on affectionate, sexual, and spiritual compatibility.