Virgo and Virgo

I’m saying all the things that I know you’ll like
Making good conversation
I gotta handle you just right
You know what I mean.

What we have with two Virgos is a double dose of Earth, Mercury, and the mutable element. Why the Virgo–Virgo cosmic match is slightly more successful than the similar Gemini–Gemini match is because Virgo is of the element Earth, which is significantly different to planet Mercury. Whereas two Gemini together are Mercury-ruled signs in the element Air, and there’s a little bit too much of the same going on. 

Two Virgos together are two people who are highly conscientious and pragmatic. Communication is a very big part of the relationship, but so is sex, and that’s why this astrology match can be quite exciting. 

The initial attraction is all about the conversation, sharing anecdotes, perhaps enjoying humorous banter, and being able to hang out, but also having a very stimulating time. Virgos are restless, they get bored quickly, so they have to be with another sign who is going to keep things interesting and entertaining. 

However, when we move through the gears into the sexual arena, Virgos can be quite experimental, hot, and adventurous in the bedroom. So, two Virgos together work really well. However, there are question marks about long-term compatibility and also about whether they can have a good friendship as well as a good marriage. 

Why this zodiac match can be difficult for a marriage is it can be all work and no play. Here we have two perfectionists, two workaholics and there can be high levels of stress in this relationship. There is this tendency they each have to be quite critical, especially when stressed. What they both need is a slightly more laid-back partner to help them chill out and see the bigger picture. 

Overall, this gets a 60% chance of success as an astrology match. 

Romantic Compatibility Between Virgo and Virgo 

The love language with Virgo is definitely communication. As a Mercury-ruled sign, the initial phases of a relationship do need to have the element of understanding and each partner must be able to maintain the other’s attention, to titillate and tantalize.

Virgo are quite private people; they are not over-sharers, so when they first get into a relationship, they want to feel someone out — they want to understand them before they even think about getting more familiar, opening up, and actually entering a romance. 

What’s great about a Virgo-Virgo partnership is they are, firstly, very good communicators, and that immediately reassures each partner. They will be able to gather information about each other, plus they are very helpful, kind personalities who are willing to do pragmatic things for each other. They are Earth signs with a sensual nature, and who know how to turn each other on by use of the five senses, so all this contributes to romance. 

Although they are both impatient, the initial phases of the relationship are quite tentative, and both can feel rather stressed. It’s probably better that they get to know each other while socializing with other friends or within a group, because that facilitates romance during the initial phases. 

As they get to know each other better, they’ll be far more comfortable on a one-on-one basis, and this is when they begin to open up a lot more. Virgo’s love language is more about communication and pragmatic acts of kindness than necessarily getting very emotional and lovey-dovey. 

Sexual Compatibility 

As these are both Earth signs, they will know how to respond to each other in terms of affection and the use of the five senses to stimulate and create pleasure. The great thing about Virgo is curiosity and eagerness to learn. Thus, even if sexually things are difficult, because they are both quite self-aware and know that everything can be improved upon, they are two people that are quite likely to do their reading, to do the research, and find out how to improve their sex life. 

A big benefit to this cosmic match is they’re both willing to learn in love. Both understand that initially we are all a little bit naïve in a new relationship, but they won’t have unrealistic expectations. Virgo are certainly very pragmatic, and that’s where their sex life benefits as they can work out what’s wrong, how to fix it, and then they can go about getting it right. 

As two Earth signs, they enjoy sex; it’s an important part of relaxing, and they will both do what they can to make their sex life exciting. However, their sex life can sometimes lack a little bit of warmth and spontaneity. It may feel just slightly mechanical and like they’re both always overthinking things. It really is important that they both learn to totally relax and go with the flow to improve their intimate relationship. 

Friendship Between Virgo and Virgo

These two zodiac signs together are not necessarily always the best friends. Sure, they communicate well, they make each other laugh, and they can have a very satisfying relationship together that feels both comfortable and full of mutual respect. However, they both benefit from being with other people who are more carefree, laid-back, and who have greater leadership skills. 

One of the problems with Virgo is that not only are they modest, but they can be slightly too pessimistic, and they overthink. Their mind often rushes in endless loops. They are more likely to see the negatives, not because they’re pessimistic, but because they like to plan, and good planners always have to cover the downside. 

Two Virgos together can indulge in too much grey-sky thinking, too much planning, too much analyzing of each other’s words and actions and this can be very counterproductive. Yes, they’re helpful friends, but in a marriage they need a lot of time apart to be with different sorts of personalities and characters with whom they can feel more confident, relaxed, and able to let go. Together, they may emphasize many of the shared traits that make them both a bit stressed out. 

Long-Term Potential and Marriage 

As Virgos trust each other, respect each other, and have good communication, it’s very likely they will see marriage as a distinct possibility. If they do get married, they won’t linger over the preparations, it’ll be a quick, small, modest affair, and they won’t feel the need to make a lot of fuss. They may even elope. 

It really helps the marriage if there is a Libra Moon or Libra Ascendant in one of them and possibly an Aries placement or a strong Mars, because this ensures the relationship doesn’t become stuck in a loop of endless criticism, guilt, and arguing. 

Sometimes, two Virgos together aren’t the greatest at dealing with the bigger problems in life. They’re superb at understanding details, and their thoughtful and graceful approach to life means they don’t often have heated arguments or temper tantrums, but there can still be a lot of tension. 

They will tend to argue and they often criticize each other. Sometimes they project their insecurities onto each other and accuse the other of what they themselves are guilty of doing. There’s a lot of projection in this relationship, which can hamper harmony. Over time, this relationship can feel brittle, as if they’ve both lost their way and are focusing too much energy inward. 

In a positive way, they can create a very successful home and family life. Both are interested in having children and want to be very involved as parents. As they are conscientious and fairly stoic, nothing much really flusters them.

They are their own worst enemies, however and they both need to be cognizant of their more regressive, negative traits and take ownership of them. They also have to learn that all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. 

Strengths and Challenges of the Relationship 

Great communication, a diligent approach to romance, and mutual empathy help this relationship succeed. Their love languages of being entertaining conversationally, solving problems logically, and being helpful in practical ways are powerful bonding factors that can make both of them want to get married. 

A willingness to learn and to experiment can mean that their sex life can get better and better, and it’s always fun to have a project. If they see their sex life as a project — something that can turn into an amazing experience — then sex life will be one of the key pluses in this astrology match up. 

There’s a lot of self-respect and understanding in this relationship, and they tend to be realistic people who plan well. Planning is important not only for romantic getaways and fulfilling experiences, it also helps both of them feel confident and in the loop. 

However, good planning can be controlling, and they both have slightly controlling natures simply because they need control as a way of managing their insecurities. But they’re similar in that respect, and that dovetails rather nicely. Virgo are prone to over-analysis, which can lead to some pessimism and a stressful loop of questioning in their mind. They can lack full trust in themselves, and both can be overcompromising as a way of deflecting responsibility. 

When the going gets tough, each may say “Over to you.” In some cases, two Virgos together say, “You decide.” “No, you decide.” “No, you decide.” Will either take responsibility and step up to the plate to make the tough decisions, or will they just keep hoping the other one does it? With two Virgos, there can be some avoidance. 

Virgos need to have separate friends and activities where they can totally de-stress. They tend to be perfectionists, very conscientious people and very hard on themselves. They find it hard to let go and loosen up, so they really need to focus on humor to dilute pressure, and they really do need to know when to switch off. This can mean switching off from work and from their clients, because being workaholics can ruin the relationship by bringing too much stress into it. One partner really needs to be the more laid-back one, who sees the bigger picture and has more faith and optimism in life. 

This relationship can lack faith and a spiritual outlook. Sometimes too much pragmatism and focus on details can make them both small-minded and ultimately too cautious and anxious.

Final Verdict 

This cosmic match is not exactly fancy-free as it can be quite a serious match. However, it can also be one that feels very exciting and through which both can learn an enormous amount. It can be romantically stimulating and engaging, and they tick many of each other’s boxes. 

It’s not a threatening relationship, because both understand how each is fairly private and cautious about love. They both will allow the necessary amount of time for the barriers to come down before they can truly venture into the relationship, so neither will put pressure on the other. 

It’s not necessarily friction-free because they do tend to argue and bicker, simply because both are signs who are quite detail-oriented, skeptical, and perfectionistic. Therefore, they’re always going to be doubting themselves, looking for more information, and trying to seek more detail and that can be a frustrating process when both partners have similar tendencies. 

One of the disadvantages is that there needs to be one of them who is able to break deadlock, make bold decisions, and go with their intuition. One partner does need to have a watery Moon or a fiery Ascendant so they can show boldness and courage in the face of crisis. One needs to have that intuitive ability or faith in a bigger picture that helps them get out of this rather narrow horizon they can sometimes get trapped in. 

This relationship works best between two first and third decan Virgos. 

Any star sign match is, of course, modified greatly by the Ascendant, Moon, and Venus signs — which will give more bearing on affectionate, sexual, and spiritual compatibility.